This is a very honest and to the point anonymous guest post all about let’s talk about mental health. It is quite concise but I feel really hits the nail on the head about why we don’t talk about mental health but why we should.
Let’s talk about mental health- Guest post
I look tanned, happy and relaxed, right?
Actually, yes I was tanned (albeit spray tanned), but I was not happy or relaxed.
Photos can be so deceptive.
This was me, a year ago, at my lowest.
When I couldn’t cope.
When I had no motivation, no energy and no joy in life.
When I couldn’t concentrate enough to read or even watch television.
When I couldn’t make decisions.
When I couldn’t care for my children.
When I cried and cried.
When I felt alone and frightened.
Why can’t we talk about mental health?
It’s an illness, just like diabetes, and we talk about diabetes. Yes, it can have provoking factors, but then so do asthma and heart disease.
We don’t talk about it because we’re afraid.
Afraid of what others might think, afraid of being perceived as weak or unable to cope, afraid of feeling like a failure, afraid of people thinking you’re crazy.
But it shouldn’t be that difficult to talk about it.
If it wasn’t that difficult then getting help and support would be so much easier. Depression and anxiety are lonely diseases. Diseases that you keep to yourself and that require effort and motivation to get better, neither of which you have.
Why can’t we just talk about it?
I’m Carol. I’m 5ft 3” (OK, 5ft 2”) and blond. I like chocolate and I hate fennel. I am a doctor, a wife, and a mother. I have a detached retina, nasal polyps, depression and anxiety.
There, that wasn’t so hard, was it?
When people ask how you are, most people say “fine”. Or they say “I’m OK, but my arthritis [insert any other physical illness] is playing up”.
Why don’t we have the confidence to say “Actually my depression [insert any other mental health illness] is playing up a bit at the moment”?
Why is it not socially acceptable to speak about mental health without fear of embarrassment or judgement?
Why are we happy to ask family and friends for help after a gallbladder operation, but not when we feel low?
You asked how I am? Well, my anxiety and depression are playing up at the moment, but I’m hoping I’ve caught it early and can get on top of it.
Thank you for your support and for listening.
Mental health. Let’s talk about it.
Can you relate to any of these reasons in regards to mental illness, I certainly can, in particular, the feeling like a failure, this is a big barrier for me, and I suspect often why I find it much easier to write about how I feel rather than actually talk to people face to face. But she is absolutely 100% right, let’s talk about mental health just as we would with physical health!
If you are struggling with mental health then please try and talk to someone about it, anyone about it. Here is a link to MIND, a UK based mental health charity that may be able to help.